Οι κανόνες επικοινωνίας που ψάχνετε (δυστυχώς μόνο στα αγγλικά. Πειράζει;)
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Originally posted by keep_walking
Δεν μπορω να το περιγραψω...αλλα το νοιωθω οτι κατι δεν παει καλα στην επικοινωνια και δυσκολευω τον συνομιλητη...και την συζητηση...θα προσπαθησω καποια στιγμη ισως να το περιγραψω αλλα οχι τωρα.
1. Be the first to say hello.
2. Introduce yourself to others.
3. Take risks. Don’t anticipate rejection.
4. Display your sense of humor.
5. Be receptive to new ideas.
6. Make an extra effort to remember people’s name.
7. Ask a person’s name if you have forgotten it.
8. Show curiosity and interest in others.
9. Tell other people about important events in your life.
10. Tell others about yourself, and what your likes are.
11. Show others that you are a good listener by restating their comments in
another manner.
12. Communicate enthusiasm and excitement about things and life in general to
those you meet.
13. Go out your way to meet new people.
14. Accept a person’s right to be an individual.
15. Show your sense of humor when talking to others.
16. Tell others what you do in a few short sentences.
17. Reintroduce yourself to someone who has forgotten your name.
18. Tell others something interesting or challenging about people.
19. Be aware of open and closed body language.
20. Use eye contact and smiling at your first contact with people.
21. Greet people you see regularly.
22. Seek common interests, goals, and experiences in the people you meet.
23. Make an effort to help people if you can.
24. Let other play the expert.
25. Be open to answering common ritual questions.
26. Get enthusiastic about other people’s interests.
27. Balance the giving and receiving of information.
28. Be able to speak about a variety of topics and subjects.
29. Keep abreast of current events and the issues that affect all of our lives.
30. Be open to other people’s opinions and feelings.
31. Express your feelings, opinions, and emotions to others.
32. Use “I” and reveal your feelings when you talk about personal things.
33. Don’t use the word “you” when you mean “I”.
34. Show others that you are enjoying your conversations with them.
35. Invite people to join you for dinner, social events, or other activities for
companionship.
36. Keep in touch with friends and acquaintances.
37. Ask other people their opinions.
38. Look for the positive in those you meet.
39. Start and end your conversation with the person’s name and a handshake or
warm greeting.
40. Take time to be cordial with your neighbors and co-workers.
41. Let others know that you want to get to know them better.
42. Ask others about things they have told you in previous conversations.
43. Listen carefully for free information.
44. Be tolerant of other people’s beliefs if they differ from yours.
45. Change the topic of conversation when it has run its course.
46. Always search for another person’s “hot button.”
47. Compliment others about what they are wearing, doing, or saying.
48. Encourage others to talk with you by sending out receptivity signals.
49. Make an effort to see and talk to people you enjoy and have fun with.
50. When you tell a story, present the main points first, and then add the supporting details afterward.
Είμαι καλός στο ψάξιμο. Να μου λέτε όταν ψάχνετε ψύλλους στ’ άχυρα.
Mε βοηθάτε και μένα να μάθω να τους εφαρμόζω αυτούς τους κανόνες, αφού και εσείς βλέπω πως θέλετε να κάνετε το ίδιο;
Γιατί δεν σχολιάζετε το όνειρό μου (στο κεφάλαιο περί «ονείρων»);
Οι κανόνες για να θυμούμαστε τα ονόματα.
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Originally posted by Sofia
καταρχην δεν θυμαμαι ονοματα εύκολα:) (νουμερακι 6)
κατα δεύτερον, απειρες φορες εχουν ερθει να μου μιλήσουν άτομα που ειχαμε συστηθει στο παρελθον αλλα εγω δεν θυμόμουν τίποτα!
πώς σου φαίνομαι?:)
Five Seconds to Success: The Art of Remembering Names
Most people are too conscious of their own problems in this matter to hold yours against you. Even if they wanted to give you a black mark, they wouldn\'t know next to whose name to put it. —Judith Martin, a.k.a. \"Miss Manners,\" author, etiquette expert
Five Seconds to Success
Five seconds! That\'s all the time you have to make a great first impression. Five seconds is all the time it takes to intro*duce yourself and remember a person\'s name. Five seconds! What faster way is there to begin a successful business or social relationship?
The famous author and public speaker Dale Carnegie said, \"The sweetest sound in any language is a person\'s name.\" There\'s no question about it. People feel flattered when you remember their names. When you remember the name of a person you\'ve recently met, you make him feel important and special and you add a large measure of personal warmth and friendliness to the conversation. Remembering names also shows that you are listening, builds rapport with new acquaintances, and helps overcome the natural barriers that separate strangers.
A Good Memory for Names Is Rare
How many times have you been talking to someone you\'ve met before—maybe even more than once—and you can\'t remember his name? Or you\'re introducing mutual friends or acquaintances, and. one person\'s name just slips right out of your head? Or you go to a party and you are introduced to someone, and five seconds later you can\'t recall her name? Or maybe you see a client, and you don\'t remember his name, so it\'s difficult to introduce him to your boss? As a result of your poor memory, you feel embarrassed and avoid people you already know, as well as new acquaintances because you might offend them by forgetting their names.
Why Do We Forget People\'s Names?
The most common reason for forgetting names is failing to focus on the moment of introduction, so you never hear them in the first place. You are too busy thinking about what you\'re going to say next or worrying about what others will think of you. This counterproductive self-talk sounds like this: \"What am I going to say after I say hello?\" \"Does my hair look okay?\" \"I don\'t want to be too forward.\" \"I\'m sure I\'ll say something stupid.\" \"I hope I\'m making a good impression.\" \"I wonder if...\"
Other distractions such as loud music or people talking can also cause you to miss the name. But lack of interest is the \'worst reason for failing to focus on someone\'s name. If you say to yourself, \"I\'ll probably never see this person again, so why should I bother learning his name,\" you have set the stage for a disjointed, impersonal, and short conversation.
Five Seconds to Success
Use the following 5-second strategy to remember first
names:
© The first second: Focus on the moment of intro*duction.
^5 The second second: Don\'t think about what to say—listen for the name.
Q The third second: Repeat the name aloud.
Q The fourth second: Think of someone you know with the same name.
Q The fifth second: Use the name during and at the end of the conversation.
© The First Second: Focus on the Moment of Introduction
Let the other person know that you consider her name important by giving her your full attention when you are introduced. Make direct eye contact, offer a warm smile, and extend a firm, friendly handshake. Holding on to the other person\'s hand an extra second can help you focus on the crit*ical moment of introduction and what is about to come next—her name.
© The Second Second: Don\'t Think about What to Say— Listen for the Name
This is the moment you\'ve been waiting for, so don\'t blow it by thinking about yourself and what you\'re going to say next. Concentrate your complete attention and listen for every let*ter in the person\'s name, particularly the first initial. If you missed the name, simply say, \"Sorry, I didn\'t catch your name.\"
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................ …. κλπ κλπ.
Αυτό είναι μόνο το ένα τρίτο από το σύνολο του άρθρου. Θα μπορούσα να φιλοτιμηθώ να σας στείλω και τα υπόλοιπα δύο τρίτα, αν με συγκινήσετε σχολιάζοντας, με εποικοδομητική κριτική, α) το όνειρο που είδα με τις αγελάδες και β) το θεατρικό έργο «Το Πολύτιμο Κόσμημα».
