Originally Posted by
FaceOnlyaMotherCouldLove
Confidence is built upon past success and the belief that your future efforts will be rewarded. When you're an ugly guy whose life has been spent in a vacuum of validation and whose attempts with women have been met with nothing but rejection and failure, it's impossible to develop anything but a thin veneer of confidence papering over a cripplingly low self-esteem.
As for the debate over the respective importance of personality and looks in attraction, I think you need to recognize that they're not entirely independent. Your personality is shaped by your experiences, and if you're ugly, those experiences are going to be largely negative. You'll be deprived of the social opportunities more attractive people have and you'll have less of a chance to develop your social skills. An ugly guy probably spends thousands of hours less time socializing during his teenage years and as a result, grows into a depressive, humorless, boring, self-centered mess (i.e., his personality will come to reflect his face and be just as unattractive).